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This is water. This is water. This is water.

Wed, 15 May 2013 15:26:46 -0400

This is water. This is water. This is water.:

“You get to consciously decide what has meaning and what doesn’t. That is real freedom. that is being educated and understanding how to think.” - David Foster Wallace

"We have to consciously study how to be tender with each other until it becomes a habit."

Wed, 15 May 2013 15:24:25 -0400

“We have to consciously study how to be tender with each other until it becomes a habit.”

- Audre Lorde (via ryanbhilliard)

npr: theparisreview: In the age-old battle between book and...

Wed, 08 May 2013 15:39:12 -0400

npr:

theparisreview:

In the age-old battle between book and bath, man has tried many things: the reading tray, the conveniently placed towel, the waterproof page. An eight-year-old has gone one better.

The next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates? — tanya b.

I do not take baths because I can’t sit still that long but….oh look a bird.

…this is genius.

daveshumka: According to its IMDB plot keywords, Gattaca should...

Wed, 08 May 2013 15:37:16 -0400

daveshumka:

According to its IMDB plot keywords, Gattaca should be my favourite movie ever.

nprradiopictures: In a poor city in a poor country on a poor...

Wed, 08 May 2013 13:01:36 -0400

nprradiopictures:

In a poor city in a poor country on a poor continent, there is a group of people with a singular purpose: to look rich.

Or, rather, to look good — and to fully embody the suave, elegant style that a wardrobe of three-piece suits, silk socks, fedoras and canes might suggest.

They are called sapeurs or members of the Societe des Ambianceurs et des Personnes Elegantes (the Society of Tastemakers and Elegant People). And when they go out, they turn the streets of Brazzaville, the capital of the Republic of the Congo, into a fashion runway.

The Surprising Sartorial Culture Of Congolese ‘Sapeurs’

Photo Credit: Hector Mediavilla/Picturetank

willthewriter: lovejminah: hellyeahleggo: this is the...

Fri, 03 May 2013 15:09:29 -0400

willthewriter:

lovejminah:

hellyeahleggo:

this is the best

YASSSS TIP !

Uncle Clifford

Wild as the Taliban.

Spending Time With…Cory McAbee In this debut episode of...

Thu, 02 May 2013 14:13:40 -0400

Spending Time With…Cory McAbee

In this debut episode of the web series Spending Time With, Dale heads uptown to a tiny stage in Manhattan to rehearse for a never-going-to-happen variety show with filmmaker, Cory McAbee (The Billy Nayer Show, American Astronaut). There’s dancing, and then there’s whatever these two are doing. And there’s a ukulele.

Q.U.E.E.N. - Janelle Monae Feat. Erykah Badu Perfect....

Wed, 01 May 2013 19:49:26 -0400

Q.U.E.E.N. - Janelle Monae Feat. Erykah Badu

Perfect. Amazing.

Shout outs to Azza. I see you in thurrrrrr.

justinchungphotography: Armando Cabral. Marriage proposal in...

Wed, 01 May 2013 19:21:00 -0400

justinchungphotography:

Armando Cabral.

Marriage proposal in the mail.

pitchfork: The no-nonsense opening salvo from Killer Mike and...

Wed, 01 May 2013 19:02:57 -0400

pitchfork:

The no-nonsense opening salvo from Killer Mike and El-P’s Run the Jewels project is called “Get It” and it is a Best New Track.

"No one wants to live in fear. I’ve always been scared of saying the wrong thing. I don’t sleep well...."

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 20:50:13 -0400

“No one wants to live in fear. I’ve always been scared of saying the wrong thing. I don’t sleep well. I never have. But each time I tell another person, I feel stronger and sleep a little more soundly. It takes an enormous amount of energy to guard such a big secret. I’ve endured years of misery and gone to enormous lengths to live a lie. I was certain that my world would fall apart if anyone knew. And yet when I acknowledged my sexuality I felt whole for the first time. I still had the same sense of humor, I still had the same mannerisms and my friends still had my back.”

- NBA player Jason Collins says he is gay - The Magazine - SI.com

so happy to read this.

(via triciawang)

annfriedman: In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 20:26:39 -0400

annfriedman:

In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.

** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.

A rationale for all them haters in the building…..

aloofshahbanou: nah, I’m freaky on my own never needed any...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 20:23:24 -0400

aloofshahbanou:

nah, I’m freaky on my own
never needed any dude to unleash my inner weirdo
brb, sacrificing a lamb at my cult meeting
ps: hi mom

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Mon, 29 Apr 2013 13:36:41 -0400

redefinedcool: The Hot Boyz…My favorite Cash Money Records era...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 13:05:26 -0400

redefinedcool:

The Hot Boyz…My favorite Cash Money Records era (Juve, Turk, Wayne, and BG)

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Mon, 29 Apr 2013 13:05:06 -0400

me: is that real? J: yes me: why is that real? J: idk sigh i...

Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:33:00 -0400

me: is that real?

J: yes

me: why is that real?

J: idk

sigh

i need that crop top tho

me: ill make you that

J: holler

me: glad we had this talk

Sister Crystals - “White” Directed by Ezra Ewen With...

Wed, 24 Apr 2013 14:54:51 -0400

Sister Crystals - “White”

Directed by Ezra Ewen

With illustrious cameos by Michael Olsen and Ezra McCants

creelfish: daysofpetrichor: chaseross: OMG I wannnnnnts...

Wed, 24 Apr 2013 13:40:35 -0400

creelfish:

daysofpetrichor:

chaseross:

OMG

I wannnnnnts it

me too yo

me three homies

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Wed, 24 Apr 2013 13:38:56 -0400